If you don't market yourself like you're worth a million dollars, don't expect a man to treat you like much. ~My Baby BrotherI got a question for the ladies: What is your going rate?
A lot of women cringe to think that they're giving up the nookie for any amount of money, large or small. But the slap-in-yo-face reality is that we're all exchanging sex for something: time, love, commitment, a broken heart, jewelry, and yes, money.
The problem with most women is that too often they sell themselves short. They lay down with dogs, and come up with fleas. They settle for a broken heart when they really want love and commitment. They settle for being the girlfriend or mistress when they really want to be a wife. If a woman knows what she wants out of the deal, why not just be honest and let it be known?
The reason why most women have lowered the bar so low is because they've fallen for the media propaganda that the number of available marriage-worthy men--specifically, black men--is so low that they have to take what they can get, and at any cost. Just this week a man told me that the numbers don't lie. There aren't enough men to go around, and men know that women are desperate enough to settle. As if that wasn't dumb enough, he really put his foot in his mouth when he sat down in my office, looked me in the eyes, and said he'd love to spend a "little" time with me, say lunch, coffee.
Ladies, I peeped the wedding ring shining oh so brightly on his left hand, and told him to do the numbers, "Here's my million-dollar offer: I'm holding out for the highest bidder with the most sense. And clearly you're not even in radar range if you think I'm going to give you any of my time in exchange for a $7 lunch or a $3 cup of coffee. I am worth so much more than that." He tucked his tail between his legs and marched out of my office the same way he came in, knowing he couldn't even afford a down payment on this. I'm sure he knows full well that just because I said no didn't mean that another woman in the office wouldn't say yes to his indecent proposal.
I know some of you are thinking, she's all about the money. And you know what, you damn right. Why settle for side-ho thrifties (a Big Mac and a fry, and time with you only when he can steal away from his wife), when you can have wifey luxuries (a house, cars, public appearances, late nights, a marriage license and an insurance policy)?
Ladies, stop apologizing when one man can't or won't meet your standards. It simply means you're not the woman for him, and vice versa. No love lost, because you have to up the ante; you require a lot because you're worth a lot. The offer is on the table. And if one man can't meet it, move along.
